Tips for Successful Co-Parenting

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A main concern for divorced or separated parents is creating a co-parenting schedule that works year 'round, through school schedules, breaks in the school year, special events, holidays, birthdays, vacations, and more. A good co-parenting schedule can alleviate the stress and tension of navigating schedules with careful planning and organizing, as well as some compromise along the way. If you need help creating a co-parenting schedule that works for you and your child's other parent as well as your children, our network of dedicated, experienced family law attorneys can help you prepare for meetings to create a co-parenting schedule that protects your rights, outlines responsibilities of all involved, and helps you plan and organize a co-parenting plan. Learn more about all the benefits of becoming a member of our Legal Protection Plans for Individuals and Families, and read on for some tips for creating a co-parenting plan that will work for you.

Communication Is Key

Working together with your child's other parent will be crucial to creating a co-parenting plan that works for everyone. Start the discussions about co-parenting early in the process, making lists of important yearly dates for each of you, vacation times if you know them, how to handle school breaks, and more. Consider creating a shared calendar where events and other important happenings can be noted, as well as any other important scheduling (such as school drop off and pick up).

Respect & Compassion

Agreeing not to speak poorly of the other parent and show respect - especially in front of your children - is extremely important to co-parenting your child. Be willing to compromise, show compassion, and be understanding when things don't go as planned. Every decision you make around your child will impact them.

Be Willing To Revisit The Co-Parenting Plan

Situations change and kids grow up, and, as those things happen - and they will! - be willing to come back to the negotiating table and make changes to the co-parenting plan that will make everyone's lives easier. Be willing to adapt to your child's changing schedules, extra curricular activities, interests, and hobbies, as well.

Calendars Are Important Tools

Technology allows us to now have digital calendars that can be shared and edited by anyone in the group, and these are a great way to keep everyone in the loop regarding plans. Making a hard copy to keep in each home isn't a bad idea, either, particularly if you or your family isn't tech savvy.

Agree On House Rules

Children need consistency, and one of the most important areas where things need to be consistent is house rules. These rules can run the gamut from when it is appropriate to watch TV or browse the Internet, time limits on video games and related activities, how and when homework needs to be done, and more. Being lenient with the rules can cause stress in the children and be problematic in both households, as one parent may be seen as "more strict" than the other if the rules aren't enforced consistently in both homes.

Big Picture

In the end, the most important thing is to make your time with your children as stress-free as possible so that you can make treasured memories with your children while you're together instead of focusing on annoyances, slights, or irritations from the other parent, which only causes resentment and isn't productive. Try to make your time with your child about spending time with them first and foremost; the time goes by too quickly!

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Going Through A Divorce? Seven Things To Remember

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Divorce rates have skyrocketed since the start of the pandemic, up 34% from years prior. Divorce is never easy, but getting the right advice for your specific situation can make the process a little less stressful. Members of our Legal Subscription Plans for Individuals & Families can get advice about divorce and separation and all other areas of family law included with their monthly subscription fee. Learn more about this fantastic benefit and read on for a few divorce tips.

Put The Children First

If you have minor children, all divorce decisions should be made with the best interests of the children first and foremost. Prioritize the needs of the children and be ready to compromise for their benefit wherever possible.

Know What You're Willing To Give Up & What You Want

Deciding what you need and want is one of the most important things to do when preparing to go through the process of divorce. Make a list of what you need to have, what you want to have, and what you'd be willing to give up and where you have room to compromise so that you will have a list when it is time for negotiations.

Uncontested Divorce Requires Working Together

Mediation can make the entire process of divorce as smooth as possible. In mediation, you and your spouse will work together to agree to terms of the split, including child support and custody, visitation, division of property, alimony, and more. Instead of communicating through representatives (like attorneys), you can talk directly to each other in a controlled environment to lessen stress and strife, lower the risk of miscommunication.

Collaborative Divorce As An Option

A collaborative divorce provides more protection than mediation but is still a cooperative effort between the divorcing parties. A collaborative divorce allows for attorneys to be present but the attorneys promise to work to amicable resolve all areas of disagreement.

Counseling

You don't have to carry the burden of a stressful divorce alone, and therapists can provide substantial benefits through a trying time. When your mental health is in the right place, you can make better, less emotional, decisions for yourself and for any children you might have.

Financial Records

One of the major areas of scrutiny in a divorce is finances, so it will be important to have your financial records and assets in order before you begin. Gather documents, such as tax returns, credit scores, debts, assets, recent bank statements, investments, and other financial records.

Get Legal Counsel

Getting a divorce should never be a DIY proposition, particularly if you have assets and/or children. Mistakes can be very costly and the law is complex. This is an area where you won't want to take a chance that everything will just work out. Hire an attorney who is well-versed in family law in your state, who knows the ins and outs of the legal system where you live, and who can advise you of your rights and responsibilities under the law every step of the way.

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Divorce: What You Need To Know

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There are many reasons that couples seek divorce, and while divorce can often be a good thing in the long run, it is important to protect your rights and assets, no matter how amicable the split is. If you are considering divorce and worry about the costs of a divorce lawyer, our legal subscription plans may be right for you. Your provider attorney can give you advice and answer questions, write letters and compose statements and court documents on your behalf, all for one low, monthly fee. In the meantime, here are some important issues to think about if you're thinking about divorce:

A Contested Divorce

A divorce is contested when there are issues related to the marriage that the parties cannot agree upon. Common areas of dispute include property division, child support, visitation, child custody, spousal support, and other assets. These can include bank accounts, insurance, investments, real property, retirement accounts, automobiles and other vehicles, and more. During a contested divorce, there is a period of extensive discovery, in which ownership records must be provided, usually going back for several years prior to the divorce, and sometimes, decades. This can drastically increase the cost of getting divorced, and the more that the parties fight, the longer it will go on, and the more that it will cost.

Counseling

When couples have minor children, divorces can be particularly contentious, regardless of whether or not the divorce is contested. Divorce counseling can help parents by creating an atmosphere where negotiation and compromise can happen, minimizing the impacts on the children, improving communication, establishing a parenting plan, and, ultimately, saving you time and money.

Mediation

Divorces can be emotionally draining, and contested divorces - ones in which there are areas of dispute, such as child custody, child support, spousal support, property distribution, etc - even more so. Many attorneys charge a minimum retainer of $3,000 or more just to begin working on a contested divorce, and can charge rates up to $450 per hour. Mediation early in the process can reduce or even eliminate contested issues, allowing couples to agree on compromises and saving money for both parties. Approach mediation with your list of items, but also be willing to compromise where you can.

Spousal Support

While some states have a formula for dealing with property division and spousal support, some states do not, and this makes some contested divorces unpredictable. Your provider attorney will be able to help you understand the laws in your state as they pertain to your particular situation.

Separation

In some states, a "no fault" divorce requires the parties to live separately and apart for a set period of time before the divorce is finalized. This period can be extended if the divorcing couple has minor children of the marriage.

What Is The Court's Role?

The courts dissolve the marriage, distribute property, and ensure the best interests of any minor children are addressed. Courts will not "punish" a spouse.

There are many and varied issues and details that can affect the emotional and financial costs of getting a divorce. If you are considering divorce, you can call your provider attorney at any time and ask an unlimited number of questions pertaining to your divorce at no additional charge. Learn more about our legal subscription plans for individuals and families, or sign up today!